When it comes to being a “Good Man” Ne-Yo isn’t just talking the talk; he’s also walking the walk. According to the 38-year-old R&B crooner, he’s actually taken the steps to be a good man, the title of his seventh studio album, and shared with us some of the tools he’s learned.
“Responsibility, accountability, learn to listen, and when I say learn to listen I mean really listen not wait for your turn to talk … women like that,” he explained while promoting his new role as ambassador for the Disney Dreamers Academy at Essence Festival 2018. “It ain’t always about you, it ain’t always about her, learn the difference, learn to make that differential.”
Ne-Yo (real name Shaffer Smith) also told us he has learned to take accountability for his actions and realized, thanks to his mother, that he wasn’t a good man in previous relationships, but is striving to be the best husband he can be to new wife and mother of his two children Crystal Smith.
“Above all of that, you have to hold yourself accountable and you have to be able to self-reflect and look back on what you need to fix about you and just go forward,” he said. “It’s one thing to have the information; it’s another to apply it, apply it to your situation, apply it to who you are, fix yourself so that you can be a good man to somebody else.”
And it looks like it’s paying off. Over the weekend, Ne-Yo shared a photo on his Instagram page of his “blended and blessed” family enjoying a Kidz Bop show in Atlanta. Pictured is his ex-fiancée, Monyetta Shaw, and their two children, Mason and Madilyn, and new wife, Crystal, and their son, Shaffer Jr.
If you recall Monyetta and Ne-Yo went through a very nasty breakup and she even accused him of forcing her to get her tubes tied after the birth of their son in 2011. Ne-Yo went on to marry Crystal and things even got messy between Monyetta and Crystal via social media.
Now it seems to all be water under the bridge and the group are happily co-parenting. Shaw even posted the family photo and revealed an excerpt from her upcoming book about keeping it classy while co-parenting, expected to drop this fall.
I was thinking about the perfect caption for this pic but the excerpt below from my upcoming book …..Keep It Classy, Co-parenting strategies for Unstoppable Moms and Devoted Dads says it best! “There are no hard and fast rules on how to keep it classy either. Adopting the right mindset will definitely guide your steps. But, keeping it classy won’t be defined by the kind of clothes you wear, car you drive or how big or small the place you call home is. Your career and zip code are all irrelevant. You’ll define what keep it classy means to you and your family—however you envision it to look, sound and feel is entirely your choice. What does matter is how you and your ex communicate with one another in the presence of your children before, during and after your breakup. Our behavior and attitude at this crucial time shapes their feelings about themselves and future relationships. This is our opportunity to teach them valuable life lessons about love, friendship, coping with disappointment and conflict resolution.” #keepitclassybook OUT THIS FALL For me it’s quite simple. My kids come first & it’s extremely vital for me to set a positive example. Trust me, they are paying close attention!! And THAT makes every decision & every move that I make easy! Now don’t get me wrong. It’s a process & on any given day a different set of challenges can arise. But if you are truly doing what’s best for your children & coming from a place of love……. it will all come together! God is amazing! —Monyetta Shaw #familyfirst #biggerthanme #biggerthanus #blendedfamily #blendedandblessed #funfamilyday #kidzbopambassador #kidzbop