In case you missed it, HBO host Bill Maher referred to himself as a “house ni**er.”
Folks were immediately in an uproar and rightly so. Even Chance The Rapper called on HBO to relieve Maher of his duties.
HBO has responded by calling his actions “completely inexcusable and tasteless.” Bill also issued a half-hearted apology stating:
“Friday nights are always my worst night of sleep because I’m up reflecting on the things I should or shouldn’t have said on my live show. Last night was a particularly long night as I regret the word I used in the banter of a live moment. The word was offensive and I regret saying it and am very sorry.”
But let’s be honest, Bill said the N-word because he believes his white privilege should allow for such crassness. Unfortunately, he’s not the only one…
Tim Allen once whined about why couldn’t he couldn’t use the word when speaking to the Tampa Bay Times. “I do a movie with Martin Lawrence and pretty soon they’re referring to me, ‘Hey my n****r’s up.’ So I’m the n****r’ if I’m around you guys but 7 feet away, if I said n****r, it’s not right. It’s very confusing to the European mind how that works. If I have no intent, if I show no intent, if I clearly am not a racist, then how can ‘n****r’ be bad coming out of my mouth?” asked Allen.
Of course, after a bit of backlash he apologized … just like they all do. Insert extreme side-eye.
To add to the growing list of white men with no sense, we offer up Charlie Sheen. The actor was caught on tape berating the mother of his children Denise Richards. In a leaked voicemail he referred to his white ex-wife as a “f***ing ni***r.” And wouldn’t you know, he apologized and even pulled the “I have a Black friend so I can’t be racist” card. “I deeply apologize by my choice of words to all I have obviously offended; especially to Tony Todd, an African-American, who was my best man at my first two weddings,” Sheen said in a statement.
Oddly enough, this isn’t just a white man’s problem. White women seem to enjoy jumping on the inappropriate bandwagon as well. Just take Madonna for example. The singer took her ignorance to Instagram and posted a picture of her white son with the hashtag “#disnigga.”
In her apology, Madge implored her fans to believe that she’s not a racist. “It was not meant as a racial slur.. I am not a racist. There’s no way to defend the use of the word. It was all about intention.. It was used as a term of endearment toward my son who is white,” her statement said in-part.
And speaking of inappropriate white women, let’s add Paris Hilton to the mix. The “Hot” socialite-turned-DJ was caught on video in 2007 with her sister dancing to Notorious B.I.G.’s “Hypnotize.” That’s when she then turns to the camera and exclaims “We’re like two n****rs.” No, Paris, actually you’re not. While Paris never really apologized her rep released this statement: “This was six years ago. She was 20 at the time. It was New Year’s Eve. She had been obviously drinking. She sincerely regrets using those words. She is not a racist or an anti-Semite.”
We all have that one friend that gets just too comfortable and for Jay Z and Beyonce, that friend is Gwyneth Paltrow. The actress posted a pic of herself on stage with Jay and Kanye while they were performing in Paris. But her caption was where things went left…
“Ni**as In Paris” was one of the duos most popular songs which the performed a record number of times while on the road. And that was Paltrow’s point. She never apologized, but after receiving a firestorm of angry tweets she simply responded, “Hold up. It’s the title of the song!”
Clearly, white folks still have some learning to do when it comes to understanding that they can never say the N-word. What do you think it will take for them to finally get the message?